pricey Madam,
in this speedy and competitive world, i am careworn about what is ideal for me. Is it exact to choose acareer which brings me happiness? Or is it higher to pick out a profession which my elders/relatives/society desires me to do in which they all are glad.
A pupil
pricey scholar,
you have got one lifestyles to stay, and one lifestyles to make your self satisfied. Your parents andhousehold and society have all had their personal possibilities. ultimately they want you to be satisfied. It’s just that they think they know the manner as a way to be happy, or they trust what made them gladmight be the identical aspect so one can make you glad. Or, they need to stay out their own goalsthrough you – they weren’t able to achieve what they desired to in existence, so they need you toachieve it, sort of on their behalf.
do not forget you are the captain of your deliver. it is your responsibility to steer it toward wherein youneed to go, in case you are clear of your dream vacation spot. The others are mere cheerleaders.
if they see you achieving your dream destination, ultimately, despite the fact that they don’t find it irresistible at first, they will ultimately cheer you on if they realize the strength of your goals and howhappy you are chasing them. all the best.
expensive Madam,
due to some unknown motive, my grades in college are losing down every day. i’ve absolutelymisplaced my 6ba8f6984f70c7ac4038c462a50eeca3 and sense lonely and depressed. could you suggestwhat can i achieve this that i will advantage my 6ba8f6984f70c7ac4038c462a50eeca3 again?
nameless
dear anonymous,
I think it is vital for you so that you can apprehend why your grades are dropping, that is inflicting to lose your confidence. it will likely be very helpful so that it will are searching for the assist of a counsellor to recognize what is going on for you. when you have get admission to to a counsellor pleaseinstallation time for some sessions with her or him.
If not please attain out for assist on the numerous free counselling helplines which might be to be hadjust for this cause. One such is the Parivarthan Counselling Helpline. you could attain out to them on 080-65333323. A counsellor from the centre may be able to provide you with the preliminary assist and anknow-how of what’s taking place. all the great.
dear Madam,
even though i am exact in studies, my dad and mom have never favored me thus far; however theyrecognize others even those who aren’t properly in research. They suppose by using doing this they may be motivating me however the opposite occurs. Please manual me as to how to deal with thishassle.
Adithi
expensive Adithi,
I assume it’s miles critical if you want to allow your mother and father recognise the way you feelapproximately what they do and allow that start an critical verbal exchange with a view to help youspecific your feelings and point of view, at the same time as at the identical time permit you to listen to their angle. What you are saying is your notion and your reading of what they do. it may now not beprimarily based on the truth of what they may be looking to do. keep in mind, communique isimportant. and even extra essential is verbal exchange that permits you to express your feelings.
recollect, all your feelings are legitimate and crucial, but it’s miles your duty to let the others to yourexistence understand approximately your feelings. Don’t assume that they realize, or understand theimpact of what they are saying and do, on you, unless you tell them. all of the quality
pricey Madam,
i’ve just finished elegance nine and i am going to elegance 10. everybody round me is talkingapproximately the Board exams. i’m pressured to do nicely. although it is 365 days away, I sense veryanxious and demanding.
I don’t recognise what to do. How do I ease the anxiety? I experience if this strain increases, i’m able tocome to be failing inside the tests even though i have studied properly. i’m an excellent student whogets precise marks. Please help.
A pupil
pricey pupil,
I assume you need to communicate together with your dad and mom that you are feeling compelledand the way the regular communication about Board checks is stressing you out. Please don’t expect that others understand the way you feel and reply to conditions and comments.
If some thing is not running for you and also you aren’t feeling ok about it, it’s far your responsibility toyour self to specific it and let others recognise that what they may be questioning is beneficial isactually no longer.
So cross in advance – talk about it. And also talk approximately your anxieties, issues, fears and stressors. you’re lucky the human beings round you care enough approximately you to worryapproximately your achievement. Now flip that support on your advantage in a way that allows you, now not hurts you. See the silver-lining in having aid. Use it and mold it to your advantage.
expensive Madam,
i’m in elegance eleven and have a boyfriend. We both like each different plenty and were courting forsome months. but, I’m constantly distracted due to this. i’m able to’t stop considering him. although i amin elegance or in a take a look at or at domestic, I think about meeting him and talking to him. is thisnormal? I don’t need to be like this. Please guide.
Neha
dear Neha,
Boyfriends may be distracting for every body. however in the end it is our preference to make them ourcomplete lifestyles and the motive of our life, or to treat them as an icing at the cake and a nice to have,whilst you cross about the main motive of your lifestyles. remember the fact that you’re a worthy andsuccesful individual, and your purpose in lifestyles isn’t just to have a courting with someone.
you have got a larger purpose in lifestyles, for your self and the arena at big, and you ought to admireyour self sufficient to permit yourself to attain your complete capability. nobody is extra essential than you and also you don’t want to make your desires and aspirations much less essential than all of us else.consider, on this adventure, having a partner is an advantage.
but the partner cannot turn out to be the journey. if you want greater assist in coping with this, Iendorse you meet a counsellor who will assist you understand your feelings and behaviour. all of thehigh-quality.
